Wedding Season Begins

It was a beautiful wedding.  I took no pictures because I wanted to travel light, the way I did when I was a girl with just a credit card and a lipstick in my pocket.  I left the credit card behind, but I did take the hotel room key and my driver's license, even though we were riding on chartered vans and wouldn't have to drive.  Before September 11, 2001, I went a lot of places without my license, which I left in the car so I wouldn't be without it when I drove.  But that event was the beginning of the surveillance state in which we find ourselves now.

But that's not a happy turn of paragraph.  That paragraph doesn't do much to support the topic sentence.  I have no pictures to prove the topic sentence, and I don't want to spend too much time on describing in words.  The bride and groom were beautiful, but I don't think I've ever seen a non-beautiful bride and groom.  They pledged their love and support, slipped rings on each other's fingers, and then we celebrated the rest of the evening.

I am intrigued by urban and non-traditional spaces that transform themselves into celebration venues.  My sister's wedding reception was at The Torpedo Factory in Alexandria, which was once a torpedo factory but is now artist spaces and celebration areas.  Last night's event was at an old train depot, right under an interstate highway.  It worked.

The food was sumptuous, the drinks free flowing, the music loud.  I couldn't do this every night, but I was glad to be there last night.

Most years, wedding seasons come and go, and no one I know gets married.  This year, we have two family weddings, just like we did a few decades ago, when my cousin got married in early Spring and my sister in late Spring.  Then, as now, there was a war in the Middle East.  Then, as now, we celebrated love despite a world that seems intent on coming apart faster than we can patch it back together again.

Then, as now, I think that love is the only way we patch this world back together again. 

Atlanta and Me

Atlanta is famous for its horrible traffic, and yesterday's traffic was horrible, just as we expected.  The worst part was some side streets which had cars parked on either side of the street, a 2 way street, which barely left room for one car to drive through.  Yikes!

Happily, we made it through and got to the hotel in Midtown Atlanta.  The car is parked in a garage, and we will not be moving it until we leave.  Last night, we walked down to South City Kitchen for dinner--what amazingly good food, drinks, and service!

As we walked back, I looked at the huge skyscrapers and thought about my connection to this city.  My earliest memories are of Atlanta and theatre.  In 1972 or so, we came to Atlanta to see Godspell, a life changing event even when I was 7--that play shaped my theology and that trip to Atlanta made me see big cities as thrilling, not scary.  In 1978, when I was 13, we came to Atlanta to see A Chorus Line and to shop for some Scandinavian furniture to go with what my mom and dad had bought when they were stationed overseas in France in the 60's.

We lived in Montgomery, Alabama, and when we would drive to see my grandparents in South Carolina, Atlanta was an unmissable landmark with buildings bigger than any in any other Southern city, a statement no longer true.  Later, in my undergraduate years, I would go to Atlanta or drive through Atlanta periodically.  I loved Atlanta and my Georgia Tech friends so much that I thought about going to grad school in Atlanta.  But instead, I went to the University of South Carolina, a choice I don't regret.

I remember coming to Atlanta in 1997 to see an exhibit at the High Museum, the first time I ever saw Pre-Raphaelite paintings, the real ones, not pictures of them in books--amazing.  I left and bought my first set of paints and brushes from Pearl, a local-ish art supply place (only later did I realize it was a chain when I moved to South Florida).

My fondest memories are of Charis Books, a feminist bookstore that is still in business, a happy surprise.  But I will not be going there today--the wedding week-end logistics don't allow for many other activities, but that's O.K.  It's good to see relatives we don't get to see often, and good to have a happy occasion to bring us together.  I am aware that in future years, it will be more likely to be a funeral that draws us near.

But let me not think about that today.  Let me marvel in this city, which 1980's Kristin would not recognize.  That girl could make her way through the city in her 1974 Monte Carlo without breaking a sweat.  I remind myself that she was younger and more foolhardy, and the city wasn't as crowded then as it is now.  Let me enjoy this time out of time, an experience that has always been quintessential Atlanta for me.

When the Next Generation Gets Married

I have lots of thoughts whirling in my brain this morning, but none of them are earth shattering.  Here's a sample:

--My spouse's sister's youngest child is getting married this week-end, and her older child will get married in May.  I think that this wedding will be the first of the next generation that I've attended.  Wait, that's not true.  I went to the weddings of both children of my grad school friends who moved to England, in part because she was from there, in part because medical care was better/easier there.  But I am almost sure this is the first wedding of grown ups whom I held when they were babies.

--Instead of pushing myself, I decided to trust that my school means what it says about work-life balance and take some days off around the wedding.  We have personal leave options, as long as we make sure our students have learning happening.  And if we're too sick to do that kind of work from a distance, we have sick leave.  

--Yesterday I remembered how much work it takes to make sure that students have learning happening when I'm not going to be here.  I'm not complaining, just observing.

--This morning, I went through my journal to remember when I first had my phone interview for an adjunct position at SMC.  It was almost 3 years ago to the day.  I was hired at the end of the phone interview, and I continue to be grateful--SO grateful--at the full-time doors that have opened because I said yes to that adjunct job.

--I am working from home this morning, which means I'll be going to my online Lutheran Foundations class from my home study.  I've written notes to myself so that I remember to log on.  Let me stop writing here and go get ready.

My Offline Journal and All the Other Types of Writing Taking the Place of Poetry Writing

I'm a bit more tired than is normal for me in the morning.  I do feel like I've been pushing myself harder than is normal:  I wanted to get the pastor work for the coming week-end done by last Sunday, which I did, but that meant I was behind with the short paper that is due tomorrow.  So yesterday, I finished that draft, then went and taught, and then came home, doing some grocery shopping along the way.

So, in the past week, in addition to the blog posts that I've written, I've written 2 sermons, 2 shorter meditations for Wednesday night worship, and a short paper (850 words) for my Lutheran Confessions class.  So, in January when I look back and wonder why my poem writing trailed off in mid-March, that's why.

This morning, before writing in my offline journal, I spent some time reading old entries from the past year.  That can leave me tired, since I usually write in my offline journal about non-bloggable stuff, usually heavy stuff, and reading those types of entries can leave me sad and slightly hollowed out.

So why do I do it?  I'm usually looking for information, of the when did that meeting happen or when did I apply for this job kind of information.  That's what took me to my journal this morning, at least.  Often I'm looking through my offline journal for sadder information, like medical details or when someone died.

Today is a heavier teaching day than I had planned, in part because of Monday's tech glitches.  Happily, it was a fairly easy pivot.  Based on yesterday's Poe/horror discussions, I'm looking forward to seeing how my afternoon classes react.  It should be a good teaching day.

But if my weariness persists, perhaps I'll treat myself to a delicious coffee indulgence mid-morning.

Mid-March: Tornadoes and Snow and the Wearing of the Green

Yesterday morning did not go the way I planned.  I thought I would get up, do a bit of work on my Lutheran Foundations class paper that is due on Thursday along with some blogging and head to campus at my normal time of 7:15.  We'd been expecting some stormy weather; in fact, I slept with my cell phone in our bedroom just in case there was an overnight alert.

I got up and looked at the weather websites and the radar.  I could see the cold front headed our way, with a huge line of storms, the kind that show up as yellow and red on the radar.  It was in Knoxville when I first woke up, which is about two hours away.  As I kept an eye on the line of storms, I decided that it was wise to hurry up my preparations and head down the mountain to Spartanburg before the storms arrived.  I left the house just after 6 a.m.

Even though I wasn't traveling in severe weather, it was still a harrowing drive.  It was dark, and I no longer drive in the dark much, so when I do, it's hard.  It had been raining, so the lines on the road weren't as clear, and worse, I could see the lines that existed from the time before the interstate renovations and reshaping.  There was quite a wind, even before the storms arrived.

As I pulled into the campus parking lot, it was daylight enough to see the clouds, which looked threatening.  Sure enough, we had a tornado warning an hour later, just when I would normally be arriving.  Even though we've never had a tornado drill, enough people knew where the safe spot in the building was that we were able to get there relatively easily--and happily, it was a big enough space to hold us all.

I thought of the tornado drills of my youth in Montgomery, Alabama.  We'd go to the hallway of the elementary school and sit facing the wall, with a textbook across the back of our heads and necks.  Our space yesterday was much safer, with a reinforced ceiling, so that the two story building was less likely to fall and crush us.

Happily, we didn't test the building strength.  After 15 minutes, we got the all clear and headed back to what we were doing.  But if I'm being honest, I was a bit discombobulated the whole day.  It was the first day back after Spring Break, and when I got to my classroom at 9, I discovered that the sound wasn't working on the in-classroom electronics.  Happily, the tech person came right away, and I had an activity to do while we waited; still, that, too, was discombobulating.

The drive home was less harrowing but still included rain and wind--and oddly, some sunshine here and there at the same time as the rain and the wind.  By late afternoon, when I was safely home and dressed in comfy clothes, it was snowing, in that beautiful way of snow that won't be sticking around.

And now, here we are at Patrick's Day, a feast day that may mean more to non-Christians than Christians--or perhaps, more accurately, to anyone who needs some festivity in the middle of March, whether that festivity be a parade or special foods (soda bread!  corned beef!  cabbage!) or green beer.  If you came here hoping for a blog post on Saint Patrick's Day, head over to this post on my theology blog.

I don't have special Saint Patrick's Day traditions, aside from wearing green.  Elementary school culture shaped me in that way, with vicious pinching for all who forgot to wear green on March 17; I look back on my elementary school days and marvel at what was allowed.  As with tornado preparedness, we weren't really protected at all.

Early Morning Music and the Writing Tasks of the Day

Once again, my writing time is fragmented by all the writing I'm hoping to get done this week-end:  tomorrow's sermon and a meditation for Wednesday night, next week's sermon and a meditation for the last Wednesday in March, and my short paper for Lutheran Confessions class which is due on Thursday.  I can get it all done, but it doesn't leave much time for other writing, like poetry writing or blogging in depth.

Yesterday I also worked some doctor's appointments into my schedule:  our annual eye exams and my 3 month dermatologist exam.  After my melanoma, I'll be going to the dermatologist every three months for the next few years.  Yesterday I had some spots zapped, along with three spots sent in for a biopsy.  Now that I've had the weird melanoma that didn't look like a melanoma, we're both a bit spooked and erring on the side of more information.

By the end of yesterday, I was a bit overwhelmed, so I unplugged for a bit.  This morning I woke up with "Ophelia" by The Band in my head.  I heard it while I was waiting for my skin exam.  My dermatologist has a great playlist, and she told me that she had it done for her exclusively.  There aren't ads, and it's a great mix of music across all genres.

This morning I did a bit of a deep dive into some music by way of YouTube, which has an algorithm for me that I don't resent.  I wanted to see if I was remembering correctly that it was The Band that did "Ophelia," and then I wanted to hear a few more songs that I remember from that Greatest Hits album.  And then there were others, including a dance-in-my-seat session to "Hold On!  I'm Coming."

It was a great way to start the day.  I should probably do it more often.

Home Again after Weather Bogged Down Travels

I made it safely back home yesterday.  Yesterday was the kind of drive where a good chunk of it was done in driving rain mixed with some sleet, snow, and hail.  Many of the drivers zoomed on by me, which is fine, except that three of those drivers had a wreck further on down the road, which made the drive even longer.

It was the kind of weather day when I was almost grateful when traffic came to a stop, so that we could see the lines on the road and the cars around us.  By the time we got moving again, the rain was mostly over.

I thought I would be driving toward bad weather, but it was actually behind me:  my folks got a dusting of snow in Williamsburg yesterday, just 24 hours after we sat outside enjoying the balmy weather.

Today's post will be a short one.  We have eye doctor appointments, and happily, we are the first two appointments of the day.  It does mean that we need to be there at 8 a.m.  So let me get ready.